We do not enter into a marriage as an obligation, as something that has to be done. We do not enter into a marriage for the sake of the ritual or ceremony. We do not enter into a marriage as a law given by the state.
But rather… we marry as a celebration, as a signpost, of how God takes two beautiful and unique individuals and brings them gloriously together as one.
No longer are there two individuals… but rather one flesh- united together as one.
No longer are there two separate or competing interests, but rather one cooperative interest.
No longer are there two sets of priorities, but rather one shared set of priorities.
No longer is there a mindset of mine and yours, but rather ours.
No longer are there “your responsibilities and my responsibilities, your role and my role, your duty and my duty,” but rather our responsibility, our role, our duty… together.
It is this new creation, this two becoming one, this beautiful union, that we celebrate in marriage.
You may have heard the saying, “What God has joined together, let no one separate.”
But I would go even further: Let each one of us- every friend, every family member, and every person do our very best to, not just avoid separating or dividing marriages, but let us work together cooperatively to encourage, build up, strengthen marriages and families through our words, our actions, and our prayers.
Marriage is a communal responsibility- we all take part and have a responsibility in the life of this new creation.
But may the bride and groom always work to encourage, build up, and strengthen their marriage and family as well.
With words of life, grace, peace, and love to one another. With the disposition of Christ, always serving each other in selfless and humble love. With prayers never ceasing for your marriage and your family, as you are showered and covered with God’s blessing and love.
And may the love of God received… be the very love given to one another.
A love that is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude.
A love that is not selfish or quick-tempered.
A love that does not keep a record of wrongs that others do.
A love that rejoices in the truth, and not in evil.
A love that is always supportive.
A love that is loyal.
A love that is hopeful.
And a love that is trusting.
It is this kind of love that will never fail.
It is this kind of love that will never fail a marriage.
It is this kind of love that will never fail a family.
Thank God for that kind of love. For demonstrating that kind of love. And for letting each of us take part in that kind of love.
I am performing a wedding today. This is a small edited portion of my message.