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Brandon Andress is the author of AND THEN THE END WILL COME! (April 2013) and Unearthed: How Discovering the Kingdom of God Will Transform the Church and Change the World (2010). He lives in Columbus, Indiana and writes for his popular blogs Brandon Andress and A Joyful Procession. Brandon earned his MBA from Indiana Wesleyan University and his BA in Psychology from Hanover College. He loves the outdoors, hiking, camping, and traveling. For more information visit: www.andthentheendwillcome.com

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How Porn is Stealing the Soul of a Generation

Earlier this year I wrote a post entitled 3 Things I Want My Son to Know About Porn. The impetus for that post was an article about an adolescent boy who was addicted to pornography and his mother’s heartache at his growing self-hatred. It completely broke my heart. At that time I began to think about how I would one day talk to my own son about pornography.

That post was met with wide acceptance and praise as many were happy that someone had begun to proactively discuss a topic that is still surprisingly taboo in much of our culture. However, to my dismay, there was a minority who mocked the notion that access and regular viewing of pornography by young men (or women) has any real negative spiritual, psychological, or relational impact.

I knew, however, from my own personal experience with pornography, and from the dozens of men with whom I had met over the years that had either dabbled or had become addicted to pornography, that the impact was profound and not something that should be treated as harmless child’s play. For young boys (or even young girls) who have unsupervised access to pornography at their fingertips around the clock, this is a very serious and growing issue.

A recent article published in the UK’s Daily Mail by Martin Daubney, former editor of the magazine Loaded, comes to this same conclusion as well. Daubney, profoundly saddened by the depth and distorted detail that adolescent boys and girls described their knowledge of sex, concluded that, “While teenage boys will always be fascinated by, and curious about, sex, what’s now considered ‘normal’ by under-18s is an entirely distorted view of intercourse and the way relationships should be conducted.”

This “normal” he describes is not the kind of sexual knowledge and verbiage that made previous generations blush. This new “normal” includes watching women without arms or legs, whom they refer to as “nuggets,” have sex. This normal includes watching men and women have sex with animals. And this normal includes aggressive and violent sex that mimics and glorifies rape.

I am sorry if these descriptions disturb you. Yes, they are sadly, tragically, and frightfully disturbing, but they are also the reality of what younger and younger generations are coming to know as “normal.” Sticking our heads in the sand because we are “uncomfortable” or “disgusted” is no longer an adequate excuse. Nor is it appropriate for naysayers to disregard the depths of this issue by simply categorizing it as normal, healthy behavior, because it is not. Either we positively and proactively face head-on the debasement and perversion that is desensitizing and dehumanizing our youth- or- we will soon face a generation that has lost it’s soul.

I am sure there are many of you saying, “But even if we come to terms with what our children are facing and will continue to face in the future, what are we to do about it?” That indeed is the question… and a question that deserves significant thought and prayer. I hope to provide some answers and guidance over the next few posts.

More than anything at this time it is essential that we all begin to unite, working positively and cohesively together for the sake of our children, for the sake of this generation. It is up to us to teach and guide our children, while they are still young, toward a more holistic, sacred, and godly view of themselves, other people, and relationships. For it is with this foundation that they will begin to see the worth and value in all things.

In my next post I will discuss 3 Reasons Every Mom Needs to Talk to Her Son About Porn. For an update on subsequent posts in this series please sign up to follow my blog below.

peace and love…

brandon

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5 Comments on “How Porn is Stealing the Soul of a Generation”

  1. brandonandress November 5, 2013 at 7:01 am #

    Reblogged this on brandonandress.

  2. Valerie Rutledge November 5, 2013 at 7:37 am #

    A very difficult post to read for a mom of 2 boys…it’s a gut check though. Just because I think “not my son” I know that I can no more control what they are exposed to outside of this home than I can control the rising & setting of the sun. Definitely an issue that needs active attention

  3. vatg4him November 6, 2013 at 10:01 am #

    Reblogged this on voicesagainstthegrain and commented:
    A must-read post form the Brandon Andress blog.

  4. Mathilda Okimi June 5, 2014 at 11:58 pm #

    Am glad I stumbled on this site.

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