porn (act 1)…

Someone recently told me that lust has such a presence and power in the life of men…that we should quit trying to fight it…and just ask God continually for forgiveness.  And while this may seem an outlandish claim to many women…there are many men who  have already done that. 

Now…there are some of you reading this who may have said under your breath, “Thank God my husband/boyfriend is a Christian…so lust is not a problem with him.”  And as much as I wish I could share your optimism…Christian men have as many problems with lust as any other group of men.

An article written for crosswalk.com suggests that 50% of men viewed pornography within one week of attending a Promise Keepers event,  54% of pastors had viewed pornography over the past year, and 47% of Focus on the Family responders claimed that pornography is a problem in their home.

In the same article, Mike Genung writes:

Wanting to prove the numbers wrong, in the spring of 2004 I approached the leadership of our church and asked if we could survey the men on the topic of pornography. Our numbers will be different; “half” can’t be true here, I thought. Of those who responded, 25 percent had looked at porn within the past 30 days, 44 percent within six months, and 61 percent within the year. The real statistic is probably higher; I heard later that a number of men didn’t fill out the survey “because they were afraid of how it would be used.”

All of this raises some very interesting questions…

Is lust and it’s manifestations a reality that men just have to deal with?

Was Jesus saying that guys will always deal with lust when he said, “You have heard it said ‘Do not commit adultery’ …but I tell you that anyone who looks lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart”?

Did Jesus raise the bar so high with his definition of adultery that men can no longer be seen as faithful…but only as fornicators?

I believe the answer to all of the questions is…NO!  But in order for the no to be a NO…men and women alike have to have a fresh perspective and approach in dealing with lust…which we will deal with in the next post.

You may ask why I chose to make this a two part entry…and I would ask you to keep reading to understand why.

Let me speak to the ladies.  The intention of this entry is not to cause issues or problems within your marriage.  Please DO NOT put your husband or boyfriend on trial.  We ALL stand under the cross together in our sin…not one of us being worthy of the blood of Jesus.  Please do not pick up the nails of judgment only to nail your husband or boyfriend to the cross they have been carrying around.  He needs your love, your patience, your grace, and your forgiveness.  Believe me when I say that there is no amount of punishment or condemnation that will make him or the situation better.

Additionally ladies…if this is not a topic that you and/or your relationship can handle right now… I would ask you to NOT read the next entry.  My prayer for relationships is that they would be everything God has always intended them to be…full of love, wholeness, service, and mutual submission…and the last thing I want to do is wound or crush you and your relationship.  The very best thing that you can do for you and your relationship is to turn off your computer…and begin to pray for you, your spouse or boyfriend, and your relationship to be what God intends it to be.

To continue… porn (act 2)

peace…love…and MUCH grace…

brandon

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