little girls grow up with visions of being swept off their feet one day by her prince charming. she dreams of being a princess…of finding romance…and of being wholly and completely loved.
but little girls soon become women and it is not long before they are awakened from their dreams to realize that their boyfriends, fiances, and husbands fall short of their romantic and emotional expectations…leaving many women feeling empty, alone, and under-appreciated.
i don’t want to be a downer ladies…but there is not a man in the world that will ever completely meet and satisfy your expectations of love and romance. in the same way that men have to realize that their sex lives will never be like what is depicted in pornography…women need to realize that men will never be able to live up to such high romantic and emotional expectations. this is NOT an excuse for men to be jerks and to not try to connect with his significant other romantically and emotionally…but it is a reality check that men will fall short of women’s longings.
we see the casualities everyday:
a married woman starving emotionally in her marriage contemplating divorce when another man treats her romantically.
a woman who goes through the cycle of marriage and divorce because there is a feeling of emptiness inside that no one can fill.
a single woman believing that she can only feel whole and complete when she is married…so she searches desperately for a man to fill the void in her life .
a young girl growing up without a father…running in circles looking for a man that will validate her sense of worth and value.
the feelings and longing for romance, wholeness, completeness, worth, and value in women are as old as the ages. it is as if women, in some way, have been disconnected from the true source of romance, wholeness, completeness, worth, and value…and have been desperately trying to reconnect with it…but not knowing where the source is or where to find it.
a Samaritan woman goes to the well to draw some water. a tired and thirsty Jesus asks the woman if she would give him a drink. being that there was hostility between Samaritans and the Jews, the lady asks how a very Jewish Jesus could ask her for a drink. Jesus responds, “you do not know what God’s gift is. and you do not know who is asking you for a drink. if you did, you would have asked him. he would have given you living water.”
i find the woman’s next two responses (edited together) to be profound and telling. she says, “you don’t have anything to get water with. The well is deep. Where can you get this living water? Sir, give me this water. Then I will never be thirsty. And I won’t have to keep coming here to get water.”
the metaphor screams. my well is running dry. i am so thirsty. i keep coming back to this well again and again and again. it quenches my thirst for a short time…but i keep coming back because i am still thirsty. i need something that will satisfy me…where can i get this living water?
Jesus responds, “GO GET YOUR HUSBAND AND COME BACK.” what? go get your husband and come back? what is Jesus getting at here? we find out that the woman has had five husbands and the man she is with now is just her boyfriend. this woman keeps running back to the well…thirsty…again and again and again and again. there is not a man that she can find that will fulfill her the way that she wants to be fulfilled, or who treats her the way she wants to be treated. Jesus is saying to her that she will be satisfied with a man for a short period of time…but it won’t be long before she will thirst again…and be looking for another man and then another man. she needs another source. one that doesn’t run out. one that is overflowing and leads to eternal life. and only Jesus can give her…and you…this living water.
ladies…your worth and value is NOT DEPENDENT upon a man. a man will NEVER make you feel completely whole. a man will NEVER be able to completely satisfy your emotional needs. a man will NEVER be able to completely sweep you off of your feet. only God and God alone can fill you up…give you worth…give you value…make you feel whole and loved…and sweep you off of your feet. He has always wanted to…and always will…but it takes you reconnecting with the source of this living water.
Come, all you who are thirsty,
come to the waters;
and you who have no money,
come, buy and eat!
Come, buy wine and milk
without money and without cost.
Why spend money on what is not bread,
and your labor on what does not satisfy?
Listen, listen to me, and eat what is good,
and your soul will delight in the richest of fare.
Isaiah 55: 1-2